Heather Cook

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My Anti-Anxiety Techniques Actually Work (And Saved My Vacation)

My recent vacation nearly ended before it started because of a last-minute disaster, but I got through it. Here’s what happened, and how I kept myself going.

Why Autistic Masking Works For Your Benefit

Here’s an upside to help you make your history of autistic masking work for your benefit.

Facing The Judge

I’d like to share about my realization of something during a turning point in my life.

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Frustrations and Fears In Burnout Recovery

Early stages of burnout recovery comes with a lot of doubts. But it will get better.

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Autistic Burnout Recovery Course Now Available!

My long-awaited autistic burnout recovery course is now available! We start September 7th, 2004. Here’s a brief overview and links to learn more.

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Why You Can’t Get Your Needs Met By Setting Boundaries

Most people don’t understand this one thing when they try to set boundaries. But getting good at this can improve both how you get your needs met, and your relationships.

How To Build Self-Trust

I occasionally ask about physical sensations when coaching, and there’s a very specific reason for that. Here’s how simply asking starts to build self-trust.

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How People Pleasing Prevents Positive Relationships

Autistic people-pleasing includes plenty of downsides, but have you thought of the positives that it prevents?

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Disclosing Autism: Understanding People’s Reactions to Disclosing you’re Autistic

People can often have upsetting reactions when you tell them you’re Autistic. Here’s why I think those reactions happen, and why it doesn’t have to be the end.

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Is It Perfectionism?

I’ve been reflecting on my relationship with perfectionism, and if that’s even the best word for what I experience.

What’s wrong with them?

When you have relationship troubles, it’s so easy to default to asking “what’s wrong with me?” Instead, sometimes it’s worth asking, “what’s wrong with them?”