Don’t Look For New Friends Until You Do This
It’s common to start with trying to find people and then work on how to build relationships, but I like to reverse that process.
Category: Social
When Someone Interrupts Your Alone Time
If when someone joins you it makes you feel like your peace is gone, and your nervous system is on edge. There could be a reason.
Miscommunications Aren’t Always Your Fault
Sometimes when you ask a clear question, you get anything but the answer. It can be easy to think it’s us, but there is another reason.
Relationship Reflection Prompts
Here are a few questions about interpersonal relationships and your autism journey that may spark some ideas.
On Email Anxiety
Does emailing trigger anxiety, procrastination, negative self-talk, intrusive thoughts, and more? Here’s what I do to get through it.
Healthy Communication is Like Safe Driving
The things that drivers do to stay safe and keep others safe, are the same types of things that go on in healthy relationships.
The Many Paths to Social Comfort
There are many parts to the internal work that we do to get reasonably comfortable with people. Here are some common ones.
When You Want Friends…and Don’t
Do you have conflicting thoughts about the idea that self-acceptance can actually work as a way to have better relationships?
Accepting Yourself as A Path to Social Comfort
Self-acceptance is a nice ideal, but how does it practically get you friends?
Why Most Socializing Strategies Don’t Work
Strategies to increase socializing by dealing with the anxiety, or improving social skills, aren’t bad ideas, but they produce limited, short-term results. Here are two reasons why.
What Social Comfort Looks Like
A brief, imaginary dip into what “being reasonably comfortable around people” practically looks like.
People Are Scary
If your default mode is that people are scary, mean, and tiring, but you still long for good friendships and better relationships, I get that. I’ve been there. And there is hope.