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Do the logistical demands of daily life — dishes, laundry, emails, appointments, calls, errands, forms, follow-ups — use up everything you have, leaving nothing for the things that actually matter to you? And still never get done?
Do you feel like your to-do list keeps growing and outpacing you, despite your intelligence? Everyone else can do this, why not you?
Is there a gap between how capable you are and how much you can actually get done on any given day that you’ve never been able to explain to anyone?

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Have I Actually Been Taught This?

5 of the Most Overlooked (and Common) Stressors

Guilt-Free Progress Tracker

Most recent articles on adulting

A pot under a sink handle, surrounded by a green foreground. Text next to it reads: "My Van's Unusual Water System".

How My Van’s Water System Works – Unique Setup

I share how I deconstructed the core of what’s actually needed in a simple water plumbing system.

A beige envelope opened to a thank you note.

Why Thank You Notes Work

Why thank you notes work might surprise you. Rather than relics of the past, these tools still serve an important purpose.

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Is It Perfectionism?

I’ve been reflecting on my relationship with perfectionism, and if that’s even the best word for what I experience.

What to Expect in the Later Identified Autism Journey

The 5 stages people predictably go through after figuring out as an adult that you’re autistic.

AuDHD Work Tips: Personal Care

Here’s a couple tips for different things you can do to help make working work better for you.

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Things I’ve Learned About Life

I’ve been thinking about something I wrote for a friend’s daughter a couple years ago.

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Painful Thoughts Around Spending Money

I’ve gotten back from my vacation, and it’s got me thinking about my relationship with money.

Gamifying Low Level Annoyances

Somethings aren’t really wrong but they still bother you, here’s an idea for how you can handle that.

Instead of “I can’t,” say this…

When we say we can’t do something that we actually can do, it may limit our ability to solve the real issue. Here’s a way to take back control.

A mouse standing on its hind legs, looking around at the floor covered with mouse traps filled with cheese bait.

Note To Self: On The Choices I Do Have

When I get wrapped up in all that I have to do, or can’t do, or should do, I feel trapped. Today I needed a reminder that I have more choices than I think I do.

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Free videos on adulting

Heather’s YouTube playlist on executive function hacks:

Guilt-Free Progress Tracker example

Guilt-Free Progress Tracker for AuDHDers and Autists

AuDHD Work Tips: Admin Tasks

AuDHD Work Tips: Personal Care

The Problem With To-Do Lists

Gamifying Low Level Annoyances

Ready to go deeper?

If you’d like more in-depth, structured, or personalized help with your personal adulting challenges—and are open to paid resources—here are my top three options: