Is it rude for Autistics to spend holidays in their room?
Is it rude for Autistics to spend holiday gatherings in their room, or opt out, instead of with the family? Is it promoting bad behavior? And how do you explain it to family members?
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Autistic Parents
and Parents of Autistics
- Are you fighting school, the systems, family members, a partner, all to make sure your kid gets their needs met? Who’s meeting your needs?
- When you learn something new about your kid’s needs, do you grieve your own childhood because you see yourself in their struggles, meltdowns, overwhelm, anxiety, and burnout?
- Are you running on empty trying to give your child the understanding and accommodations you never got as a kid? Is the guilt of not having more to give eating you alive?
- Are you trying to raise your child in a way that’s neurodiversity affirming, while still unlearning the harmful messages you were raised with yourself?
If you recognized yourself in any of these, you don’t have to keep figuring it out alone.
I’ve walked this road myself, and that’s why I’ve put together resources, tools, and answers to support you in making it better.
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Free workshop on reducing stress for Autistics
Heather’s free workshop recording:
The 5 Most Overlooked (and Common) Autistic Stressors
Most recent articles for autistic parents and parents of Autistics
How to Prevent Meltdowns
Meltdowns are no fun, but it is possible to avoid them. Here’s a framework for how.
The 5 Most Overlooked (and Common) Autistic Stressors
Here are five things that are so common in our modern lifestyle, that we often don’t have a chance to experience life without them, so we don’t see how much they affect us.
Thoughts on Theory of Mind
Theory of Mind is often pointed out as an autistic deficit, but is it really that? Is something else going on? And is it just autistics that find this challenging?
Why Social Skills Training is A Waste of Time (If Not Worse)
Socializing isn’t primarily about social skills. In fact, that’s the smallest factor, and the last thing to work on.
Your Path to a Life You Love: Identify and Remove Hidden Barriers
Why is it that strategies to fix the obvious challenges often don’t work? It’s usually because they don’t get at what’s really going on beneath the surface.
How to Kill A Growth Mindset
Many schools and teachers try hard to foster in students a growth mindset—the resilience to keep trying—but are we unintentionally undermining our best efforts?
Can We Talk About the T Word?
There’s a topic I’ve been avoiding. It’s not easy or comfortable to talk about, but I’m increasingly convinced that it is necessary. Will you join me in this difficult, and deeply rewarding, conversation?
Sensory Toys Can Be Anything
With more and more sensory specific products on the market, it can feel like you have to shell out money for sensory regulation. Don’t forget what you already have handy.
Stimming and Autistic Stress
Stimming is both a physical expression of stress—either bad stress or good stress—and it’s a way to help us calm down.
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