Why Autistics Are Lonely
So many autistics struggle with loneliness, even while they ache for connection. It’s easy to think it’s because we’re just too different, but what if that’s not the case?
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Your Later Identified Autism Journey
- Did learning about autism feel like an aha moment — your whole life suddenly made sense — but you’re still waiting for that clarity to actually change anything?
- Have you gone down the rabbit hole of research, taken all the tests, and maybe even gotten a diagnosis, but still feel stuck in old patterns?
- Do you feel like the way you’ve been living isn’t working, but you’re not sure what will work?
- Are you afraid that if you actually start building your autism-positive life, that you’ll blow up your life — piss people off, lose your job, alienate the people you rely on, and end up more miserable and destitute — and it won’t have been worth it?
If you recognized yourself in any of these, you don’t have to keep figuring it out alone.
I’ve walked this road myself, and that’s why I’ve put together resources, tools, and answers to support you in making it better.
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Why Finding Your Autistic Community Didn’t Fix Your Loneliness (The Truth No One Talks About)
When we finally figure out that we’re Autistic, we think finding community in other Autistics will be what allows us to finally find good relationships. But sometimes, it just results in us feeling more isolated than ever.
The Uncomfortable Combination Of People Pleasing And Demand Avoidance
In my last video, I shared the story of being unfairly accused of cheating someone, but forgot to finish with what happened with the sheriff. Here’s the rest of that story.
Autistic Pride Day
It’s Autistic Pride Day and I’ve been thinking lately about what pride means in this context, and what I’m proud of.
Practical Tips for Disclosing Your Autism
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(Re)Building Self Trust After You Learned You’re Autistic
Once you discover your autism, you may realize just how severed the connection to yourself is, but it is possible to get in touch with yourself; to learn to trust your instincts better.
I Upset Others When I Mask Less
Sometimes when we unmask our autism, other people will have big reactions and get really upset, and we might think that we have to go back to masking because of that. But here’s a third option.
How People Pleasing Prevents Positive Relationships
Autistic people-pleasing includes plenty of downsides, but have you thought of the positives that it prevents?
Disclosing Autism: Understanding People’s Reactions to Disclosing you’re Autistic
People can often have upsetting reactions when you tell them you’re Autistic. Here’s why I think those reactions happen, and why it doesn’t have to be the end.
Is It Perfectionism?
I’ve been reflecting on my relationship with perfectionism, and if that’s even the best word for what I experience.
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