When we finally figure out that we’re Autistic, we think finding community in other Autistics will be what allows us to finally find good relationships. But sometimes, it just results in us feeling more isolated than ever.
For autistics, it makes sense why we tend to avoid social situations; the majority of our interactions can be uncomfortable. But we can’t lean into the discomfort until we stop shaming ourselves.
Why thank you notes work might surprise you. Rather than relics of the past, these tools still serve an important purpose.
Sometimes when we unmask our autism, other people will have big reactions and get really upset, and we might think that we have to go back to masking because of that. But here’s a third option.
Here’s an upside to help you make your history of autistic masking work for your benefit.
Most people don’t understand this one thing when they try to set boundaries. But getting good at this can improve both how you get your needs met, and your relationships.
Autistic people-pleasing includes plenty of downsides, but have you thought of the positives that it prevents?
When you have relationship troubles, it’s so easy to default to asking “what’s wrong with me?” Instead, sometimes it’s worth asking, “what’s wrong with them?”
When people tell you they want the truth, but then get mad or defensive or say it’s fine but things are weird between you later, here’s what I think is really going on.
How do you tell if people really want honesty or not? Here are a few tips, and some relief for when you get it wrong.
Is it rude for Autistics to spend holiday gatherings in their room, or opt out, instead of with the family? Is it promoting bad behavior? And how do you explain it to family members?
Here’s what might be going on if you hate being perceived, if it feels bad or awful, especially if you’re Autistic or otherwise different from the majority around you.
