The Many Paths to Social Comfort
There are many parts to the internal work that we do to get reasonably comfortable with people. Here are some common ones.
Category: Acceptance
When You Want Friends…and Don’t
Do you have conflicting thoughts about the idea that self-acceptance can actually work as a way to have better relationships?
Accepting Yourself as A Path to Social Comfort
Self-acceptance is a nice ideal, but how does it practically get you friends?
What Social Comfort Looks Like
A brief, imaginary dip into what “being reasonably comfortable around people” practically looks like.
People Are Scary
If your default mode is that people are scary, mean, and tiring, but you still long for good friendships and better relationships, I get that. I’ve been there. And there is hope.
Unlearning Internalized Ableism: A Short Intro
Do you harangue yourself about the things you should do, even when you’re physically unable and they don’t actually, really, absolutely, need to be done?
On Trying To Be Normal And Understood
Trying to be normal as a way to be understood is a self-defeating. People who learn about you, will only learn about this pretend version of you.
My Independence Day
The Fourth of July celebrates the signing of the Declaration of Independence, not of actually gaining independence. That took several more years and they had to fight for it. Hard.
I Just Threw Away All My Makeup; Here’s Why
Yesterday I wore makeup to make a short video. The consequences reminded me of just how strongly my senses effect everything in my life.
Your Path to a Life You Love: Deepen Your Personal Sensory Awareness
Almost all autistics have a more intense sensory experience of the world than the majority of people. Understanding what that means for you gives you power.
How to Kill A Growth Mindset
Many schools and teachers try hard to foster in students a growth mindset—the resilience to keep trying—but are we unintentionally undermining our best efforts?
A Dentist and A Dinosaur
A recent trip to the dentist was both a harrowing experience and a moment of acceptance.