Is it rude for Autistics to spend holidays in their room?
Is it rude for Autistics to spend holiday gatherings in their room, or opt out, instead of with the family? Is it promoting bad behavior? And how do you explain it to family members?
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- Are you fighting for your kid in every direction — with schools, with systems, with family members who don’t believe it, with a partner who sees it differently — while nobody is fighting for you?
- Do you find yourself grieving your own childhood every time you learn something new about what your kid needs — recognizing yourself in every description, every struggle, every meltdown, in the burnout, the anxiety, the overwhelm?
- Do you want so badly to give your child the understanding and accommodation you never got — but are running on empty yourself — and does the guilt of not having more to give feel like it’s eating you alive?
- Are you trying to raise your child in a way that’s neurodiversity affirming, while still unlearning the harmful messages you were raised with yourself?
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Most recent articles for autistic parents and parents of Autistics
How to Prevent Meltdowns
Meltdowns are no fun, but it is possible to avoid them. Here’s a framework for how.
The 5 Most Overlooked (and Common) Autistic Stressors
Here are five things that are so common in our modern lifestyle, that we often don’t have a chance to experience life without them, so we don’t see how much they affect us.
Thoughts on Theory of Mind
Theory of Mind is often pointed out as an autistic deficit, but is it really that? Is something else going on? And is it just autistics that find this challenging?
Why Social Skills Training is A Waste of Time (If Not Worse)
Socializing isn’t primarily about social skills. In fact, that’s the smallest factor, and the last thing to work on.
How to Kill A Growth Mindset
Many schools and teachers try hard to foster in students a growth mindset—the resilience to keep trying—but are we unintentionally undermining our best efforts?
Stimming and Autistic Stress
Stimming is both a physical expression of stress—either bad stress or good stress—and it’s a way to help us calm down.
The Worst Testimonial I’ve Ever Read
We want to raise kids to be independent, but when they’re fighting you at every turn, it’s so easy to succumb to the seduction of a child who’ll just do what you tell them.
A Lesson from the Big Bang Theory
Penny tries to help Bernadette go into labor, but Bernadette gets stuck and what happens next it’s so reminiscent of my life.
Hidden Stressors at Home
When your senses tell you that everything hurts, even home can be a minefield. Here’s some tips to help your sensory defensive child be happier in your home.
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