Why They Say “You Know What You Did”: The Unexpected Backlash
A very common situation for Autistics is one where someone is upset at us and we can’t figure out what we did or said to upset them. I’d like to offer my explanation for why this happens.
Category: Social Explanations
Trust Your Path: When to Ignore Good Advice
I’m laying out a framework for how to tell whether the advice someone is giving you, or that you find on the Internet, is relevant for you or not.
Why Thank You Notes Work
Why thank you notes work might surprise you. Rather than relics of the past, these tools still serve an important purpose.
How To Tell If People Really Want Honesty, Part 2
When people tell you they want the truth, but then get mad or defensive or say it’s fine but things are weird between you later, here’s what I think is really going on.
How To Tell If People Really Want Honesty, Part 1
How do you tell if people really want honesty or not? Here are a few tips, and some relief for when you get it wrong.
Alternative Answers to: “How Was Your Day?”
For some people, asking “How Was Your Day?” is a low stress way to start a conversation, so I’d like to talk about some low stress ways to respond.
Why Neurotypicals Do That: Small Talk
Autistics and neurotypicals tend to have very different views on small talk. What’s going on from both sides?