When You Hate Being Perceived
Here’s what might be going on if you hate being perceived, if it feels bad or awful, especially if you’re Autistic or otherwise different from the majority around you.
Category: Social
How Much Is It Okay to Go Out of My Way for Others?
As you’re learning to establish healthier relationships and boundaries, the question comes up, “How much is it healthy to do things for others that use my own energy and effort?”
What is Internalized Ableism?
Here are a couple examples of internalized ableism, and a few thoughts exploring what ableism is, how it gets so ingrained, and what the way out may be.
Why “It’s Just A Label” Hurts
There’s so much history and personal experience surrounding diagnoses, and they’re more complicated than “just labels.”
When You Can’t Reach Out But There Was No Trauma
Some times you want friends, and you try to reach out, but question whether this person really wants to hear from you again. Here’s what might be happening.
Alternative Answers to: “How Was Your Day?”
For some people, asking “How Was Your Day?” is a low stress way to start a conversation, so I’d like to talk about some low stress ways to respond.
The Weird Mental Arithmetic of Masking
Masking and unmasking is a weird equation, and there’s a lot to take into account when doing them.
Elephant Training, Social Development, and Morality
I want to talk for a moment about how we’re trained in society to conform to this perceived norm, and how it creates anxiety.
Don’t Look For New Friends Until You Do This
It’s common to start with trying to find people and then work on how to build relationships, but I like to reverse that process.
When Someone Interrupts Your Alone Time
If when someone joins you it makes you feel like your peace is gone, and your nervous system is on edge. There could be a reason.
Miscommunications Aren’t Always Your Fault
Sometimes when you ask a clear question, you get anything but the answer. It can be easy to think it’s us, but there is another reason.
Relationship Reflection Prompts
Here are a few questions about interpersonal relationships and your autism journey that may spark some ideas.