How To Tell If People Really Want Honesty, Part 1
How do you tell if people really want honesty or not? Here are a few tips, and some relief for when you get it wrong.
Category: Social
Is it rude for Autistics to spend holidays in their room?
Is it rude for Autistics to spend holiday gatherings in their room, or opt out, instead of with the family? Is it promoting bad behavior? And how do you explain it to family members?
When You Hate Being Perceived
Here’s what might be going on if you hate being perceived, if it feels bad or awful, especially if you’re Autistic or otherwise different from the majority around you.
Thoughts on Gratitude
Musings on my former reluctance to say “thank you,” saying it too often, and the 180 I’ve done since.
How Much Is It Okay to Go Out of My Way for Others?
As you’re learning to establish healthier relationships and boundaries, the question comes up, “How much is it healthy to do things for others that use my own energy and effort?”
What is Internalized Ableism?
Here are a couple examples of internalized ableism, and a few thoughts exploring what ableism is, how it gets so ingrained, and what the way out may be.
Why “It’s Just A Label” Hurts
There’s so much history and personal experience surrounding diagnoses, and they’re more complicated than “just labels.”
A Timeline for Creating Social Anxiety
Here’s a timeline for creating social anxiety. I’m wondering if any of this resonates with you?
When You Can’t Reach Out But There Was No Trauma
Some times you want friends, and you try to reach out, but question whether this person really wants to hear from you again. Here’s what might be happening.
Alternative Answers to: “How Was Your Day?”
For some people, asking “How Was Your Day?” is a low stress way to start a conversation, so I’d like to talk about some low stress ways to respond.
The Weird Mental Arithmetic of Masking
Masking and unmasking is a weird equation, and there’s a lot to take into account when doing them.
Elephant Training, Social Development, and Morality
I want to talk for a moment about how we’re trained in society to conform to this perceived norm, and how it creates anxiety.