Anxiety Relief for Autistic Adults: Practical Techniques That Work
How to get unstuck so you can send that email, say what you really want, not freak out (as much) when the unexpected happens, and mess up without ruminating about it forever.
Category: Shame and Self-Compassion
Internalized Ableism for Autistics: Workshop & Assessment
Learn how to spot and start dismantling internalized ableism in your adult Autistic or AuDHD life—including the ways you’ve been trained not to notice you’re discriminating against yourself.
Why Finding Your Autistic Community Didn’t Fix Your Loneliness (The Truth No One Talks About)
When we finally figure out that we’re Autistic, we think finding community in other Autistics will be what allows us to finally find good relationships. But sometimes, it just results in us feeling more isolated than ever.
The Uncomfortable Combination Of People Pleasing And Demand Avoidance
In my last video, I shared the story of being unfairly accused of cheating someone, but forgot to finish with what happened with the sheriff. Here’s the rest of that story.
Halfway done is wholly right
I’m revisiting the Denver Museum of Nature and Science, where I had a major mental shift six years ago, that helped me let go of the need to complete everything.
The Abuse of High Standards
I’m reflecting on how easy it is for high moral standards, high standards of justice, high standards of behavior, or high standards of achievement can be damaging.
Why Changing My Mind Is So Hard
I’m reflecting on how hard it has been for most of my life to change my mind, change plans, backtrack, and to not follow through with a plan, or with something I’ve said I will do.
When WFH Backfired, and Increased My Anxiety
This is a story that took place a few years before I figured out I’m Autistic. My supposed dream come true of working from home turned out to be a recipe for high anxiety.
What Culture Says about Strength Isn’t True
We often view our culture as “the way things are,” and this is especially true when it comes to displays of strength, but culture isn’t always right.
Four Mental Health Myths That Are Unhealthy
A few comments about four mental health myths that I’ve seen play out pretty consistently over the years.
Letting Go of the Shame of Avoiding People
For autistics, it makes sense why we tend to avoid social situations; the majority of our interactions can be uncomfortable. But we can’t lean into the discomfort until we stop shaming ourselves.
The Danger Of Assuming People Wanted The Life They Got
How social pressures shape our lives, and then people assume that’s what we wanted.