Practical Tips for Disclosing Your Autism
How to approach the “I’m Autistic” conversation so it goes better, and coping when it doesn’t.
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- Can you advocate fiercely for others but struggle to ask for even the smallest accommodation for yourself? Do you doubt you’ve earned the right to need it?
- Do you dread medical appointments, workplace conversations, or difficult relationship moments because translating your experience into words other people will take seriously feels almost impossible?
- Have you spent so long making yourself work within systems that weren’t built for you that you’re not even sure what other options are possible?
If you recognized yourself in any of these, you don’t have to keep figuring it out alone.
I’ve walked this road myself, and that’s why I’ve put together resources, tools, and answers to support you in making it better.
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Do You Not Know What You Need?
Do you find it difficult to answer questions like, “what do you want?” or “what do you need?” Here’s my take on what’s going on.
Finding Your Autistic Way Is Like Being Lost In The Woods
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Is it the Job Or is it You?
How do you separate personal issues with a job from the job just being a horrible job?
How To Request Sensory Accommodations
It can be hard to convey what you need when requesting sensory accommodations. Here’s a framework for how.
How To Ask Someone To Do Something For You
It can be intimidating to ask someone to do something for you, yet we all have to do this. I’m going to discuss an approach I’ve pieced together on how.
This is Why Honesty Really is the Best Policy
We are socialized not to complain, but sometimes that means not telling people what we need. I have been getting better at saying what I need, and finding out that people can help.
A Lesson from the Big Bang Theory
Penny tries to help Bernadette go into labor, but Bernadette gets stuck and what happens next it’s so reminiscent of my life.
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Free videos on advocacy for Autistics
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Are you using autism as an excuse or as a reason?
Why “you should know this by now” is wrong
The “becoming normal” project didn’t work #actuallyautistic #autismacceptance #autismadvocate
How to change the system #actuallyautistic #betterlife #changethesystem #betterworld
Productive failure #autismadvocate #burnoutrecovery #shorts
Unmasking Strategies for Safety
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Free videos on people pleasing for Autistics
Heather’s YouTube playlist on people pleasing:
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“This isn’t a big deal” is an excuse
Setting boundaries and following them is not the same
Rule following can also be a form of people pleasing 
Holiday people pleasing leads to sticky situations  #audhd #holidaystress #peoplepleasing
Do you people please AND avoid demands? #actuallyautistic #audhd #pda
The Uncomfortable Combination Of People Pleasing And Demand Avoidance
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Ready to go deeper?
If you’d like more in-depth, structured, or personalized help with advocating for yourself—and are open to paid resources—here are my top three options:
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Here are more common topics of interest in the later identified Autistic Journey: