Whether you’ve recently figured out you’re Autistic, or are coming to terms with it in a new way, you’ve always known you were different. And now you know you were right.

And you’re coming to terms with this new idea:

You're not broken, defective, or wrong.
You work differently, and that's okay.
In fact, it's awesome.

There’s validation and relief there, but also confusion and anger and regret and…maybe a little flicker of hope that things could get better?

My hope is that you will eventually, fully internalize this truth:

You were born on this Earth the way that you are,
which means you have a right to be on this Earth the way that you are.

Which is empowering, yes, and maybe you’re thinking it would be nice to live into that someday, but honestly, right now, you probably just want to get through the day without constant exhaustion.

And mostly, you’re hoping this new understanding of yourself will mean you can find real help.

I get it, because I’ve been there. This was me several years ago.

A pale skinned woman with brown hair and blue eyes, smiling while sitting crossed legged on a wooden chair.

Hi. I'm Heather.

I'm Autistic, ADHD, highly sensitive, and have sensory processing differences. Plus, I live with chronic pain from EDS.

The weird thing is, though, that I didn’t realize any of that until my 30s.

Sure, there were signs. (Lots, looking back.) 

I would invariably say the awkward thing. Or ask a simple question and be accused of being rude.

Loud noises and bright lights bothered me. I struggled to keep my place reading. My body didn’t work how others’ did.

But in 1,000 little and big ways, I simply adapted, ignored, or discounted my own experiences.

No one understood, so I stopped trying to talk about it. I did the hiding, avoiding, dreading people thing instead. The phone-shy thing, the cancel-at-the-last-minute thing, the hermit thing. I burnt out multiple times. I spent years struggling with anxiety and depression.

I’ve also come to a place where my life works. I function better on a daily basis, the brain fog is so much less, I keep steady self-employment, and haven’t burnt out since 2015. 

I’m comfortable with myself and others, have awesome (IRL and online) friends, go out when I choose (which isn’t often, tbh), and I don’t feel guilty when I don’t.

Now I help other neurowonderful humans who are done chasing “normal” to build a life they love without compromising who they are.

Yes, that is possible.

What I offer

1.
1:1 Coaching

Want some personalized help crafting your autism-positive life?

We’ll work together, via Zoom or over the phone, to unlearn:

  • The guilt and shame of not being “normal.”
  • The internalized ableism about how you “should” function.
  • Masking, and the damaging messages about how to be around people.
  • The areas where you personally get “stuck.”

Which opens up new possibilities to:

  • Tweak your life to be more friendly to how your personal sensory-nervous-system-brain works.
  • Manage the many tasks of day-to-day life.
  • Take better care of yourself.
  • Get, keep, or improve a job or self-employment.
  • Learn healthier Autistic ways to interact with others.
  • Make your wildly improbable goals come true!

2.
Autistic Burnout Recovery Course

I’m in the process of making this!

It will be an online, self-paced course that’s guided, yet highly customizable, to get out of this burnout and stay out, breaking the cycle forever.

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    3.
    Get Specific Help

    Gentle sensory awareness prompts:

    Anxiety reduction and sensory integration at a deep biological level:

    4.
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    What can coaching help with?

    Here’s a sampling of what my actual clients came to me for help with.

    And yes, they got real results they were happy with.
    (As evidenced by my many testimonials.)

    “Letting go of ableist expectations, finding strategies and resources to get through the day, and in general managing life with too much on my plate.”

    “Figure out what my needs are and how to express them, self forgiveness, reframing life, selling my book.”

    “Figuring out who I am, strategies for better communication in my marriage, reducing parenting overwhelm, navigating conflicting needs with my partner and kids.”

    “I have had issues understanding my own identity and what I really want out of situations and of life. I am looking for validation and advice.”

    “Living authentically, finding freedom, letting go of “normal” expectations.”

    “Explore my sensory experiences, communication, and processing issues, better understand myself and autism, find daily stressors to prevent meltdowns and save energy.”

    “How to support my Autistic kid, and how to think about and approach problems so that everybody gets what they need.”

    “Dismantling neurotypical and capitalist expectations, making work sustainable.”

    “Finding strategies to keep clean and fed, understanding PDA better, exploring gender identity.”

    “Decide if I want to adjust and stay in my field (but find a new job) or leave and do something else. Cope with the changes either will bring.”

    “Figuring out how to change my career so I’m not so drained, even though I’m good at what I do.”

    “Build a new foundation for life, work through the hole left by leaving religion, build an autism positive life.”

    “Figure out what is trauma and what is autism, unpack social dynamics, figure out friendships.”

    “Unmasking, preventing an impending burnout, figure out how to get paid for my skills before my savings runs out.”

    “I have been told I am causing a toxic work environment but truly don’t understand how. I need help understanding and learning how to avoid this in the future.”

    “Recovery from autistic burnout, unmasking, help doing well in human activities with humans.”

    Feel like this might be a fit?
    Here are 3 ways to get started:

    1.
    Get Free Stuff

    Attend my free workshops, sign up to the email list, browse through my best articles and videos, or download free printables.

    2.
    Get Specific Help

    Gentle sensory awareness prompts:

    Anxiety reduction and sensory integration at a deep biological level:

    3.
    1:1 Coaching

    Want some personalized help crafting your autism-positive life?

    We’ll work together, via Zoom or over the phone, to unlearn the areas where you personally get “stuck,” which opens up new possibilities.

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